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Archive for July, 2010

Remembering the Simple Things

Sometimes in life we get caught up in all the crap in life that we have to do, places we have to be and things that should have been done yesterday.  It is very difficult to remember the simple things and appreciate them in all of the hub-bub.  Often times it takes a tragic event to remind us and only a few moments go by before we are back into our lives forgetting.

I am fortunate enough to work with a group of children who appreciate  the simple things every day and this serves as a reminder to me to stop and appreciate them as well.  The children  that I work with have multiple disabilities many of whom are autistic.  A few days ago I and a child that I work with at the day camp were on a bus going to a field trip.  The windows were down and the wind was whipping through the bus.  I have never seen this child as happy as she was that day.  Her smile was gigantic and she was giggling.  I asked her what she was so happy about and she signed back “wind”.  Wind….that was all.  Talk about the simple things.

She reminded me that day that something as simple as wind blowing on you should be appreciated.  It has been several days and I haven’t forgotten yet, but how long will it be before I slip back into the day to day not remembering the lesson that she taught. I can hope that it lasts a life time but is that realistic? I suppose only time with tell and for now I will stop and appreciate the wind.

MCML

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To the Beautiful Trans-feminine Person on the Metro…

Today while on the Metro bus as I was sitting with the camper I work with at the day camp I looked in front of me and saw someone who had very masculine features but that was dressed in a frilly black skirt.  Upon closer inspection…aka this person moving closer to me due to a crowed bus I clearly saw an Adam’s apple and a five a clock shadow that was trying to be covered with make-up, additionally this person was wearing a stuffed bra, they were wearing earrings and  they had shaved legs and arms. And while they are clearly read as a male person in feminine attire frequently (as stated by two other persons that I work with) I had admiration for them being on a particularly crowded city bus, being themselves, and not freaking out about it. This person and my eyes met for a short period of time and there was a whole conversation made just by our eyes and head nods. My interpretation is something like this: (the bold is the other person)

Hello

Hello,I know that you and I are similar

I know that you are my family

This means that we are not alone in this crazy world

I know and I feel better just knowing that

I wish you the best, but as to not draw attention I’m going to look away

(as I was getting off the bus) Good day and Best wishes

Same to you

It does make me feel better knowing that I am not alone and that my own kind recognizes me for who I am even when others around me don’t. Furthermore I want to again express my utmost respect for this person being their beautiful self even when a lot of people would not want to be in that situation. I hope we meet again.

MCML

Are you a boy or a girl?

My friend’s blog post the other day reminded me of all the times I have been asked.  Are you a boy or a girl?  If I only had a nickel for  every time I was asked that question by children, I would be very very rich,  to rich to count in fact. However, below I shall touch on my favorite responses from both me and the children that have asked me.
Child: Ms. (Last Name) are you a boy or a girl?
Me: Really did you just say “Ms.” and ask me that question?

Child: Are you a girl or a boy?
Me: What do you think?
Child: Well you look like a boy, you sound like a girl, and you act like both
Me: (impressed by the child’s understanding of gender)
Child: I think you are a boy!
Me: Sure

Child: Are you a boy or a girl?
Me: Yes!

Child: Are you a girl or a boy?
Me: Does it matter?
Child: (walks away really confused)

Child 1: Are you a boy or a girl?
Me: What do you think?
Child 1: A girl.
Child 2: A boy.
Me: Exactly!

I love children. They make my day because they are so innocent and curious in their questioning and at the end of the day whether you are a boy/girl/ or something in the middle, they don’t care.

Why a Che>< Mix Life?

One day during freshman year in college I was eating original Chex Mix and realized that my life unlike the usual saying was not like a box of chocolates at all it was more like a bag of Chex Mix. Let me explain…

A regular bag of Chex Mix contains:

Corn Chex,Wheat Chex, Circle Pretzels, Checkerboard Pretzels, Rye Chips, and Mini Bread Sticks. Generally speaking this is consumed rather enjoyably.  Much like my life is generally enjoyable.  However I do have parts of the mix that I love and parts that I strongly dislike and a lot of meh in between. Below is the list in order of my least favorite to most favorite parts of Chex Mix and how it relates to my life.

Checkerboard pretzels: These are my least favorite.  They are dry, plain and boring and not particularly enjoyable.  In proportion to my life there is a good amount of these in the mix.  These compare to the parts of my life that are crappy days where it kinda sucks and are just unenjoyable.

Circle pretzels: These are minimally more enjoyable than the previous because there is less blandness to consume.  These compare to the days that contain that one minor bad thing that sets off your day enough to annoy you but not really make a huge difference on life itself.

Mini-breadsticks:These to me are okay, they aren’t the greatest but they are sure better than pretzels.  These days are just meh nothing terrible happens but nothing to terribly exciting does either.

Corn Chex: These are good especially the extra seasoned ones.  There are quite a few of these in a bag and quite a few of these in life.  These are the days when most things work the way you want them to and life is generally nice and enjoyable.

Wheat Chex:These are particularly more flavorful than Corn Chex.  There are quite a few of these in a bag and quite a few of these in life. These are the days that things are good for the day and things look good for the future you have time for business and leisure and life is good!

Rye Chips: These are my FAVORITE! There are very few in a bag however and one needs to savor them completely in my opinion.  This is much like the best days where you get a surprise phone call from a friend or the day is beautiful and you have time for a walk that you usually don’t get to take. These are the days to remember and cherish.

You may be asking: What about the days when you don’t feel like you can go on because things are so difficult? My answer to that my friends is that this compares to when the bag is empty and it seems like you have nothing left to consume, but always remember that you can always recharge and move on with life just like you can always get another bag of Chex Mix.

*note i’m using “Che>< Mix in my blog title as a way not to use a copyright name.

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